After a breakup
, you don't owe your ex anything and you certainly don't have
to get back together. But, if you choose to try again, you both know that your hearts are really in the right place. And that's a great foundation from which to build a new relationship.
Your Relationship Will Be More Real
The first time around, you and your guy were likely trying to show each other only your best selves, but this level of politeness tends to go out the window during a breakup. So, if you decide to reconcile with your guy
, it will be after
you've seen him at his worst—and you've shown him your true colors, too.
You'll Be Better Together
Because you've probably rehashed your relationship's demise
with each other many times, ideally you and your guy will be prepared for whatever issues broke you up in the first place. Having a plan of action about how you're going to handle problems might make your relationship even stronger.
Your Relationship Will Have a Clear Direction
Sometimes, a breakup can be the healthy shakeup that will take your relationship to the next level. Getting back together can also mean getting on the same page about where your relationship is headed, and may up the odds that you guys can last the second time around.
You'll Value Each Other More
After experiencing what it felt like to be apart, you'll learn to value your union in a new way and be more appreciative of the time you spend together.
You're More Committed
Maybe you weren't ready to be tied down when you first dated, or he sucked at commitment. Being apart can show you both how important you are to each other—and make you realize you really want to be committed
this time around.
You'll Be More In Touch With Your Needs
It sounds cheesy, but after a breakup, you focus more on your needs and what you require to be happy. That's a huge plus, since women often put their priorities aside in relationships. This time around, you'll have a better idea of what you want…and the crap you won't put up with.