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Get yourself out of the Friends Zone:



Prevention Is Key

The second you figure out that you like a guy, ask him to hang in a way that's more date-y than what you'd typically do with a friend. Think: Dinner at a cool restaurant vs. going to a game together. Shy people tend to slowly get to know the other person, even if the attraction is instant, but this is exactly how people get stuck in the Friend Zone.

Take a Pass on Goofiness

A lot of us are big on self-deprecating humor, saying things like, "I'm such a dork!" But this usually leads to friendship, not romance. If you want a guy to see you a certain way, don't put yourself down—even if you're just joking.

Play Hard to Get

Don't be too available to him—with your time or your emotions. Give a guy the option of dating you, or don’t spend too much one-on-one time with him at all. We tend to assume that if we hang around a guy enough, he'll realize that he's actually in love with us, but it only rarely works out that way.

Get Physical

Start small—put your hand on his back, rest your head on his shoulder, give him a kiss on the cheek to say hello or goodbye. If he returns the gesture, or puts his arm around you, you're getting somewhere.

Make Him (a Little) Jealous

Get more guy friends. If you're busy with other pals he might be more eager to get time with you. It might take losing you a little bit for him to realize he wants out of the friend zone too.

Ask for It

Ask him to do little favors for you, like walking your dog when you're out of town and return them. Doing boyfriend/girlfriend things for each other will make him feel more protective and affectionate toward you

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Friend Zone - How to Get a Guy to Like You - Cosmopolitan 
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